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Re: Collaborative Conversation

Posted By: Forrest of B.org Date: 9/30/05 1:32 p.m.
In Response To: Collaborative Conversation (Forrest of B.org)

: This is a note to myself to write more on this topic when I get home from
: work...
Screw it, I'm bored at work, and I love philosophical conversations.
I don't entirely disagree with your anecdote. It is a valid criticism of being gullible and easily persuaded. You shouldn't take other people's opinions at face value and just run with them, I agree there.
But the implication this anecdote makes that you should not seek consider other people's opinions unless you feel like it goes too far to the other side and becomes very closed-minded.
The principle I advocate is what I call "collaborative conversation" - take everybody to be partially right, but ONLY partially right. Put another way, hold on to the true foundations of your own opinion and actively seek to incorporate the true parts of others opinions so as to expand the truth of your own.
In your anecdote, Steve begins with no opinion at all, then takes Jojo's opinion for his own. Jojo's advice at the end amounts to "I gave you good advice to start with, why did you have to listen to all those people?", but that line of reasoning would have lead Steve to shun Jojo's advice in the first place, since Jojo's opinion was not that which he already held (since he held none).
What I'm saying Steve should do is take Jojo's opinion for his own, since he has none to start with, and then evaluate any new opinions he encounters in light of his own opinion. Don't scrap what Jojo said for what the next builder says, but don't ignore the next builder either. If you entirely disagree with someone, something in your understanding is lacking. If you can see where they're coming from, understand how they could hold that opinion, but still see where they're lacking, then the truth of their opinion is less broad than yours and there's nothing there to incorporate - you've already got those parts. But if they say something and you just don't understand, from your current point of view, how they could possibly think that's true, it seems diametrically opposed and alien to what you've got now - don't just disregard them, but don't scrap your current point of view for theirs either: seek the broader point of view which incorporates both of them.
That's not to say to seek the middle ground either. A third "middle" point of view between might see things kind of like both of them but still hold them both to be incomprehensible in some way or another, and is likely to be inconsistent with itself anyway. That's what people normally call "compromise" - the fine art of making sure everybody loses equally. I mean to seek a HIGHER point of view - collaboration, the art of seeing that everybody's a winner.
Now, your anecdote allows for the seeking of advice at will, and so in some sense is not incompatible with the method I'm putting forth. The only real distinction I'm making is that, *whenever possible*, not just when you feel like it or when you've no other option, seek to understand anyone you disagree with, to the point that you no longer do, while at the time time never letting go of your own original understanding. Expand your understanding to encompass theirs and in doing so become greater than both they and your previous self.

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Re: Mapping community Blake37 9/27/05 12:11 p.m.

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Re: Mapping community goran 9/28/05 12:38 a.m.

Re: Mapping community RyokoTK 9/28/05 3:25 a.m.

Re: Mapping community goran 9/28/05 5:23 a.m.

Re: Mapping community Forrest of B.org 9/28/05 8:18 a.m.

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Re: Mapping community RyokoTK 9/28/05 5:23 p.m.

Re: Mapping community ellio7t 9/30/05 9:15 a.m.

****To mapping community**** me_43 9/28/05 11:45 p.m.

Just be quiet, me_43. Seriously. *NM* RyokoTK 9/29/05 3:39 a.m.

Re: Just be quiet, me_43. Seriously. Simon/team Sigma 9/29/05 3:50 a.m.

Re: ****To mapping community**** goran 9/29/05 4:02 a.m.

Can't we all just get along? *NM* Bob-B-Q 9/29/05 4:47 a.m.

Re: Can't we all just get along? Simon/team Sigma 9/29/05 5:11 a.m.

Consider the circumstances. RyokoTK 9/29/05 12:38 p.m.

Re: Consider the circumstances. me_43 10/4/05 3:19 a.m.

I'm with Bob-B-Q on this Reiginko 9/29/05 5:33 a.m.

Re: I'm with Bob-B-Q on this me_43 9/29/05 6:38 a.m.

To all of you... Forrest of B.org 9/29/05 7:47 a.m.

Re: To all of you... kyjel 9/29/05 9:11 a.m.

Re: To all of you... Jacke 9/29/05 9:51 a.m.

Re: To all of you... Forrest of B.org 9/29/05 8:06 p.m.

Re: To all of you... goran 9/29/05 10:00 p.m.

Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot Tyler 9/30/05 1:35 p.m.

Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot Forrest of B.org 9/30/05 1:52 p.m.

Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot Forrest of B.org 9/30/05 1:53 p.m.

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Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot Forrest of B.org 10/3/05 2:13 p.m.

stop goran 9/29/05 10:44 a.m.

I wouldn't see it as "preaching" MrHen 9/29/05 11:41 a.m.

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Re: stop goran 9/30/05 3:18 a.m.

FROG BLAST THE VENT CORE!!!!!!! *NM* ukimalefu 9/30/05 4:58 a.m.

Re: stop Forrest of B.org 9/30/05 6:25 a.m.

Steve's house goran 9/30/05 9:10 a.m.

Collaborative Conversation Forrest of B.org 9/30/05 12:37 p.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation Forrest of B.org 9/30/05 1:32 p.m.

Unsolicted advice (this time without anecdots) goran 9/30/05 4:39 p.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation goran 9/30/05 5:10 p.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation D-M.A. 9/30/05 9:12 p.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation Forrest of B.org 9/30/05 10:24 p.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation goran 10/1/05 1:56 a.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation goran 10/1/05 12:52 a.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation D-M.A. 10/1/05 1:39 a.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation D-M.A. 10/1/05 1:50 a.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation goran 10/1/05 2:46 a.m.

Re: Collaborative Conversation goran 10/1/05 2:29 a.m.

Another note to self... Forrest of B.org 10/3/05 12:10 p.m.

Subjective vs Objective, Relative vs Absolute Forrest of B.org 10/3/05 1:12 p.m.

Applause! *NM* Blake37 10/3/05 1:42 p.m.

addition: beliefs and maps goran 10/3/05 3:22 p.m.

Re: addition: beliefs and maps D-M.A. 10/3/05 7:04 p.m.

Re: addition: beliefs and maps Forrest of B.org 10/3/05 7:07 p.m.

Re: addition: beliefs and maps goran 10/4/05 12:32 a.m.

MSF Story Hour Jacke 9/30/05 1:38 p.m.

Re: To all of you... me_43 10/1/05 2:37 a.m.

Re: To all of you... RyokoTK 10/1/05 4:00 a.m.

Re: To all of you... me_43 10/1/05 7:27 a.m.

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Re: To all of you... Steve Levinson 10/1/05 7:07 p.m.

Re: To all of you... C Lund 10/1/05 11:16 p.m.

Re: An objective opinion? Maybe. Blayne 9/29/05 7:40 a.m.

Re: ****To mapping community**** Adam Ashwell 9/29/05 12:08 p.m.

To me_43, G�ran and anyone else who'll listen Steve Levinson 9/30/05 9:08 p.m.

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Re: To me_43, G�ran and anyone else who'll listen goran 10/1/05 12:28 a.m.

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Re: Mapping community D-M.A. 9/29/05 10:42 a.m.

Re: Mapping community me_43 10/5/05 10:01 p.m.

Can't see shit. *omg downloads* Me_43 10/5/05 11:27 p.m.

Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died Reiginko 10/6/05 2:08 a.m.

Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died Forrest of B.org 10/6/05 6:51 a.m.

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Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died Forrest of B.org 10/6/05 2:16 p.m.

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Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died goran 10/8/05 1:34 a.m.

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Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died me_43 10/8/05 12:55 a.m.

Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died RyokoTK 10/8/05 3:16 a.m.

Do you really think you can make better maps? RyokoTK 10/6/05 3:34 a.m.

Re: Do you really think you can make better maps? Simon/team Sigma 10/6/05 3:55 a.m.

Re: Mapping community goran 10/6/05 4:14 a.m.

[end thread] me_43 10/6/05 5:06 a.m.

Re: [end thread] D-M.A. 10/6/05 7:55 a.m.

Re: [end thread] Dave 10/7/05 9:08 p.m.

Re: [end thread] goran 10/8/05 1:32 a.m.

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Re: [end thread] RyokoTK 10/8/05 3:16 a.m.

Re: Mapping community goran 10/6/05 4:53 a.m.

Re: Mapping community goran 10/6/05 11:55 a.m.

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: Screw it, I'm bored at work, and I love philosophical conversations. : I don't entirely disagree with your anecdote. It is a valid criticism of : being gullible and easily persuaded. You shouldn't take other people's : opinions at face value and just run with them, I agree there. : But the implication this anecdote makes that you should not seek consider : other people's opinions unless you feel like it goes too far to the other : side and becomes very closed-minded. : The principle I advocate is what I call "collaborative : conversation" - take everybody to be partially right, but ONLY : partially right. Put another way, hold on to the true foundations of your : own opinion and actively seek to incorporate the true parts of others : opinions so as to expand the truth of your own. : In your anecdote, Steve begins with no opinion at all, then takes Jojo's : opinion for his own. Jojo's advice at the end amounts to "I gave you : good advice to start with, why did you have to listen to all those : people?", but that line of reasoning would have lead Steve to shun : Jojo's advice in the first place, since Jojo's opinion was not that which : he already held (since he held none). : What I'm saying Steve should do is take Jojo's opinion for his own, since he : has none to start with, and then evaluate any new opinions he encounters : in light of his own opinion. Don't scrap what Jojo said for what the next : builder says, but don't ignore the next builder either. If you entirely : disagree with someone, something in your understanding is lacking. If you : can see where they're coming from, understand how they could hold that : opinion, but still see where they're lacking, then the truth of their : opinion is less broad than yours and there's nothing there to incorporate : - you've already got those parts. But if they say something and you just : don't understand, from your current point of view, how they could possibly : think that's true, it seems diametrically opposed and alien to what you've : got now - don't just disregard them, but don't scrap your current point of : view for theirs either: seek the broader point of view which incorporates : both of them. : That's not to say to seek the middle ground either. A third : "middle" point of view between might see things kind of like : both of them but still hold them both to be incomprehensible in some way : or another, and is likely to be inconsistent with itself anyway. That's : what people normally call "compromise" - the fine art of making : sure everybody loses equally. I mean to seek a HIGHER point of view - : collaboration, the art of seeing that everybody's a winner. : Now, your anecdote allows for the seeking of advice at will, and so in some : sense is not incompatible with the method I'm putting forth. The only real : distinction I'm making is that, *whenever possible*, not just when you : feel like it or when you've no other option, seek to understand anyone you : disagree with, to the point that you no longer do, while at the time time : never letting go of your own original understanding. Expand your : understanding to encompass theirs and in doing so become greater than both : they and your previous self.

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Mapping community	goran	9/27/05 11:52 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	Blake37	9/27/05 12:11 p.m.
Re: Mapping community	Nick Hoad	9/27/05 1:30 p.m.
Re: Mapping community	Me_43	9/27/05 8:23 p.m.
Re: Mapping community	goran	9/28/05 12:38 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	RyokoTK	9/28/05 3:25 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	goran	9/28/05 5:23 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	Forrest of B.org	9/28/05 8:18 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	Nick Hoad	9/28/05 12:52 p.m.
Re: Mapping community	RyokoTK	9/28/05 5:23 p.m.
Re: Mapping community	ellio7t	9/30/05 9:15 a.m.
**To mapping community**	me_43	9/28/05 11:45 p.m.
Just be quiet, me_43. Seriously. NM	RyokoTK	9/29/05 3:39 a.m.
Re: Just be quiet, me_43. Seriously.	Simon/team Sigma	9/29/05 3:50 a.m.
Re: **To mapping community**	goran	9/29/05 4:02 a.m.
Can't we all just get along? NM	Bob-B-Q	9/29/05 4:47 a.m.
Re: Can't we all just get along?	Simon/team Sigma	9/29/05 5:11 a.m.
Consider the circumstances.	RyokoTK	9/29/05 12:38 p.m.
Re: Consider the circumstances.	me_43	10/4/05 3:19 a.m.
I'm with Bob-B-Q on this	Reiginko	9/29/05 5:33 a.m.
Re: I'm with Bob-B-Q on this	me_43	9/29/05 6:38 a.m.
To all of you...	Forrest of B.org	9/29/05 7:47 a.m.
Re: To all of you...	kyjel	9/29/05 9:11 a.m.
Re: To all of you...	Jacke	9/29/05 9:51 a.m.
Re: To all of you...	Forrest of B.org	9/29/05 8:06 p.m.
Re: To all of you...	goran	9/29/05 10:00 p.m.
Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Tyler	9/30/05 1:35 p.m.
Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 1:52 p.m.
Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 1:53 p.m.
Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Tyler	9/30/05 2:57 p.m.
Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 10:11 p.m.
Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Speaker-To-Animals	10/1/05 7:31 a.m.
Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Blake37	10/1/05 9:35 a.m.
Re: Sleep is irrelevent to the Fobot	Forrest of B.org	10/3/05 2:13 p.m.
stop	goran	9/29/05 10:44 a.m.
I wouldn't see it as "preaching"	MrHen	9/29/05 11:41 a.m.
Re: stop	Forrest of B.org	9/29/05 2:40 p.m.
Re: stop	Forrest of B.org	9/29/05 8:01 p.m.
Re: stop	Bob-B-Q	9/29/05 3:24 p.m.
Re: stop	RyokoTK	9/29/05 3:29 p.m.
Re: stop	Forrest of B.org	9/29/05 7:49 p.m.
Re: stop	goran	9/29/05 9:54 p.m.
Re: stop	Forrest of B.org	9/29/05 10:24 p.m.
Re: stop	goran	9/30/05 3:10 a.m.
Re: stop	RyokoTK	9/30/05 4:07 a.m.
Re: stop	goran	9/30/05 3:18 a.m.
FROG BLAST THE VENT CORE!!!!!!! NM	ukimalefu	9/30/05 4:58 a.m.
Re: stop	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 6:25 a.m.
Steve's house	goran	9/30/05 9:10 a.m.
Collaborative Conversation	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 12:37 p.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 1:32 p.m.
Unsolicted advice (this time without anecdots)	goran	9/30/05 4:39 p.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	goran	9/30/05 5:10 p.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	D-M.A.	9/30/05 9:12 p.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 10:24 p.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	goran	10/1/05 1:56 a.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	goran	10/1/05 12:52 a.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	D-M.A.	10/1/05 1:39 a.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	D-M.A.	10/1/05 1:50 a.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	goran	10/1/05 2:46 a.m.
Re: Collaborative Conversation	goran	10/1/05 2:29 a.m.
Another note to self...	Forrest of B.org	10/3/05 12:10 p.m.
Subjective vs Objective, Relative vs Absolute	Forrest of B.org	10/3/05 1:12 p.m.
Applause! NM	Blake37	10/3/05 1:42 p.m.
addition: beliefs and maps	goran	10/3/05 3:22 p.m.
Re: addition: beliefs and maps	D-M.A.	10/3/05 7:04 p.m.
Re: addition: beliefs and maps	Forrest of B.org	10/3/05 7:07 p.m.
Re: addition: beliefs and maps	goran	10/4/05 12:32 a.m.
MSF Story Hour	Jacke	9/30/05 1:38 p.m.
Re: To all of you...	me_43	10/1/05 2:37 a.m.
Re: To all of you...	RyokoTK	10/1/05 4:00 a.m.
Re: To all of you...	me_43	10/1/05 7:27 a.m.
Re: To all of you...	Simon/team Sigma	10/1/05 12:17 p.m.
Re: To all of you...	Steve Levinson	10/1/05 7:07 p.m.
Re: To all of you...	C Lund	10/1/05 11:16 p.m.
Re: An objective opinion? Maybe.	Blayne	9/29/05 7:40 a.m.
Re: **To mapping community**	Adam Ashwell	9/29/05 12:08 p.m.
To me_43, G�ran and anyone else who'll listen	Steve Levinson	9/30/05 9:08 p.m.
Re: To me_43, G�ran and anyone else who'll listen	D-M.A.	9/30/05 9:22 p.m.
Re: To me_43, G�ran and anyone else who'll listen	Forrest of B.org	9/30/05 10:35 p.m.
Re: To me_43, G�ran and anyone else who'll listen	goran	10/1/05 12:28 a.m.
Re: To me_43, G�ran and anyone else who'll listen	me_43	10/1/05 2:45 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	D-M.A.	9/29/05 10:42 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	me_43	10/5/05 10:01 p.m.
Can't see shit. omg downloads	Me_43	10/5/05 11:27 p.m.
Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	Reiginko	10/6/05 2:08 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	Forrest of B.org	10/6/05 6:51 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	goran	10/6/05 9:51 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	Forrest of B.org	10/6/05 2:16 p.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	me_43	10/7/05 2:06 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	goran	10/7/05 2:54 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	Nick Hoad	10/7/05 10:44 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	goran	10/7/05 11:14 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	Nick Hoad	10/7/05 1:54 p.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	me_43	10/8/05 12:54 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	me_43	10/8/05 12:55 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	goran	10/8/05 1:34 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	RyokoTK	10/7/05 3:12 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	me_43	10/8/05 12:55 a.m.
Re: Oh, man, and I thought this thread had died	RyokoTK	10/8/05 3:16 a.m.
Do you really think you can make better maps?	RyokoTK	10/6/05 3:34 a.m.
Re: Do you really think you can make better maps?	Simon/team Sigma	10/6/05 3:55 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	goran	10/6/05 4:14 a.m.
[end thread]	me_43	10/6/05 5:06 a.m.
Re: [end thread]	D-M.A.	10/6/05 7:55 a.m.
Re: [end thread]	Dave	10/7/05 9:08 p.m.
Re: [end thread]	goran	10/8/05 1:32 a.m.
Re: [end thread]	goran	10/8/05 2:06 a.m.
Re: [end thread]	RyokoTK	10/8/05 3:16 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	goran	10/6/05 4:53 a.m.
Re: Mapping community	goran	10/6/05 11:55 a.m.



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	Message: : Screw it, I'm bored at work, and I love philosophical conversations. : I don't entirely disagree with your anecdote. It is a valid criticism of : being gullible and easily persuaded. You shouldn't take other people's : opinions at face value and just run with them, I agree there. : But the implication this anecdote makes that you should not seek consider : other people's opinions unless you feel like it goes too far to the other : side and becomes very closed-minded. : The principle I advocate is what I call "collaborative : conversation" - take everybody to be partially right, but ONLY : partially right. Put another way, hold on to the true foundations of your : own opinion and actively seek to incorporate the true parts of others : opinions so as to expand the truth of your own. : In your anecdote, Steve begins with no opinion at all, then takes Jojo's : opinion for his own. Jojo's advice at the end amounts to "I gave you : good advice to start with, why did you have to listen to all those : people?", but that line of reasoning would have lead Steve to shun : Jojo's advice in the first place, since Jojo's opinion was not that which : he already held (since he held none). : What I'm saying Steve should do is take Jojo's opinion for his own, since he : has none to start with, and then evaluate any new opinions he encounters : in light of his own opinion. Don't scrap what Jojo said for what the next : builder says, but don't ignore the next builder either. If you entirely : disagree with someone, something in your understanding is lacking. If you : can see where they're coming from, understand how they could hold that : opinion, but still see where they're lacking, then the truth of their : opinion is less broad than yours and there's nothing there to incorporate : - you've already got those parts. But if they say something and you just : don't understand, from your current point of view, how they could possibly : think that's true, it seems diametrically opposed and alien to what you've : got now - don't just disregard them, but don't scrap your current point of : view for theirs either: seek the broader point of view which incorporates : both of them. : That's not to say to seek the middle ground either. A third : "middle" point of view between might see things kind of like : both of them but still hold them both to be incomprehensible in some way : or another, and is likely to be inconsistent with itself anyway. That's : what people normally call "compromise" - the fine art of making : sure everybody loses equally. I mean to seek a HIGHER point of view - : collaboration, the art of seeing that everybody's a winner. : Now, your anecdote allows for the seeking of advice at will, and so in some : sense is not incompatible with the method I'm putting forth. The only real : distinction I'm making is that, whenever possible, not just when you : feel like it or when you've no other option, seek to understand anyone you : disagree with, to the point that you no longer do, while at the time time : never letting go of your own original understanding. Expand your : understanding to encompass theirs and in doing so become greater than both : they and your previous self.
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